Dear Jessie,
Me and my girlfriend of 2 years broke up about a month ago. Leading up to the break-up we'd both been very busy with other things and hadn't been seeing each other very much. She has a very stressful new job and it's been important for her to work hard at it, obviously 'we' have suffered as a result.For a long time i've been too comfotable in the relationship and haven't been giving it what it deserved, up until the break up she had been the opposite. I know she truly loved me, and i loved her too. she broke up with me because we'd drifted apart, and she needed to concentrate on her job. I really want to make things work out. My question is, What would be the best way to get things back on track? Should we be friends?
My Dear Friend,
I see you would like to rekindle your relationship. Great! Letting yourself be "too comfortable" was a way of not taking a leadership role. So she did. Her way to solve her problem was to release the relationship. It may have been the most invigorating thing for her to do, as it served her well at that time.Have you checked in with her lately? Is it still serving her well to be alone? Have you asked what she REALLY needed that you weren't providing her? Are you willing to give that to her consistently - the way she says? The best way to get things back on track is to accept you don't know what track that is (for now) and simply be the friend she needs (for now) and if it's right, you both will be finding yourself holding each other once again. In the meantime, be attractive! Involve yourself. Participate. Be the fire that people want to be closer to.
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