Dear Jessie,
Myself and my partner have been together for almost 2 years. He also says that because my friends (who are my age) are all buying houses and moving in together and getting married he feels a pressure to do that and he's just not ready - even though our relationship needs to move forward. Anyway, I got very upset and made it very clear I didn't agree that breaking up is the answer and he is very stubborn - he has definitely made his mind up. He did say we might try again in a few years but not to hang on for him as that's not fair. Because of my busy work commitments we broke up over the phone and I am meeting him for lunch today - to say goodbye in person. I'm heartbroken and don't want to come across as desperate.
My Dear Friend,
This type of abrupt transition can really hurt. I'm sure he is hurting too, but the way he's coping with his pain is not to face it - and to just break it off. You might be his best friend, as you are, and instead of asking WHY?! for your needs, ask him Why? for his needs. Let him know you are committed to his friendship regardless of his idea to fix things and ask him for HIS friendship by allowing the transition to not be so abrupt, but a powerful one...regardless of where you end up!Remember, he may need a break and you might not. Really listen to the reasons behind his quick fix and something is bound to come up for you both.
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